We all have a friend who tells us to
- get out of our comfort zone
- follow our passion
- start our own business
He will always try to find a way to talk about it as somehow it’s his favorite subject. Right?
I have to admit, I even said it to some friends many times. But then it hit me. Society used to pressure us to go through master studies and not only bachelor. To get a serious job in a big corporation, to build a career, etc. It’s now pressuring us with those three words: comfort zone, passion and business.
Do you feel pressured just by reading those three words? I hope not. But please, just take a break for a second and don’t let the 21st century’s trend pressure you!
I’m serious. What about living your life as you want first? Don’t you think we have something else to do than care about this? Don’t get me wrong, you should care about it but only when you are ready. Your life, your family, your friends and you matter first.
I, myself, went out of my comfort zone, followed my passion and tried to start a new business. But only when I was in good conditions and ready to do so.
I got fired from my job after working there for 4 years, so in France you get unemployment money for a year or so. That’s the moment I decided to change my professional career from engineering to organizing festivals. So how did I get out of my comfort zones?
- by taking a different kind of job where I had no experience whatsoever. Not even a diploma in cultural management.
- by accepting a salary five times less than my previous one.
- by moving to Budapest, a city where I do not speak the language.
I must emphasize that the only thing that took me out of my comfort zone is taking a different job. As I had unemployment money, reducing my salary drastically wasn’t a problem. And I had already lived in Finland, a country where I did not speak the language. So moving to Hungary was definitely not an issue. And that’s what I mean by being ready. If you’re someone who can’t change countries from one day to another, don’t start by moving out to the other side of the planet. You can always start with small tasks or challenges that affect you on a small scale, until you’re ready and confident to go bigger. My advice start with cold showers.
Then, you could say I followed my passion. I was always into music festivals and concerts. Also thanks to my dad into contemporary dance and cinema. But if you ask me today if I followed my passion, the answer is no. I was just in the right conditions to do something I was passionate about and excited for. And already after my second year working for the festival I felt that I wouldn’t be doing this forever. It’s important to do something that motivates you and give a meaning to your life. But if you haven’t found it yet, it’s not a problem at all. Keep your life as it is as life is not only about work but about balance. You always have to work on it to keep this balance the same way you work on relationships. With sacrifices, personal improvements,etc. My advice start researching what your next job could be.
And the same moment I have started working for this festival I wanted to start a business. I tried for a year, didn’t work. Had a great co-founder but who didn’t have much time to give. I had 6 months where I managed to work full time on it. Then I had to work part time on it because the festival was taking more of my time. When I think about it now? It was the worst timing to start a business in Paris when I was just starting a new job in Budapest. Why did I do it ? I have two great entrepreneurs friends that inspire me. But I want to believe that society pressured me in a way if I’m not starting a business, I’m not in the trend. And you know what, who fucking cares? I learned a lot from this one year journey and I liked the feeling of starting and creating something new. I might do it again or I might have another “normal” job in a company. But if you don’t start a business, trust me it’s ok.
So the next time someone talks to you about comfort zone, passion and business, listen to him carefully because he might be the one who needs your help.